One of the toughest things to come to grips with is that God won't always spoon-feed us. It sounds funny, but many of us unintentionally approach the faith that way: as if God is some wish-granting genie. We question his existence when we don't get what we want.
Of course, God is not indebted to us AT ALL. But he chooses to answer our prayers anyway out of goodness and love. After all, he DOES invite us to, "Ask, and you will receive; seek, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened to you." - Matthew 7:7
But if we think God will answer our prayers in the package we're expecting, think again. In fact, sometimes his refusal to answer us directly or immediately is THE answer in itself. What we think we want is not always what we need, so God finds other ways to give us that.
This means that God won't always spoon-feed us.It's a tough pill to swallow, but he won't always give us the easy solution. He won't always keep us from getting hurt. But that's because we need to GROW. It's like taking the training wheels off a bike or learning how to walk. We have to fall in order to learn how to pick ourselves back up. We have to leap in order to learn how to fly. We have to get hurt in order to learn that wounds can heal. And all of this allows us to find God in the process.
This is what we call spiritual maturity. When we first begin our relationship with God, all is fine and dandy. Like the "honeymoon phase" of all typical relationships, we're on fire with God's love, absolutely certain of his presence, reassured of his goodness. But as we mature spiritually, God challenges us to take our faith further: to trust in him even without consolation of positive feelings, to believe in his love for us even when it feels so far away. That is True Faith: one that no longer relies on feelings.
To end this off, here's a poem called "And God said No!" (not sure who wrote it):
I asked God to take away my pride, and God said "NO." He said it was not for Him to take away, but for me to give up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole, and God said "NO." He said her spirit is whole, her body is only temporary. I asked God to grant me patience, and God said "NO." He said that patience is a by-product of tribulation, it isn't granted, it's earned. I asked God to give me happiness, and God said "NO." He said He gives blessings, happiness is up to me. I asked God to spare me pain, and God said "NO." He said suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me. I asked God to make my spirit grow, and God said "NO." He said I must grow on my own, but He will prune me to make me fruitful. I asked God to help me love others as much as He loves me, And God said "Ah, finally you have the idea!"